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Dear Love & Lust,
I am a female living in the Albany area, and I am writing about a so called relationship that I am in. I met a guy online and we have
been together for about 8 months now. I have a lot of Pro-Her females and want to know from you guys do you think I'm crazy? Am I
over-reacting with this situation I am about to describe?
He says he cares for me and loves me but I don't feel it. This is why; he leaves sexual comments on other females profile pages
online. He tells them he misses them and stuff like that. Once in a while he stays out late and I can't reach him. When he's around me
his phone rings a lot and he always ignores it, but then he will start to text. To me that seems kind of suspect. He still keep in touch
with ex-girlfriends and all his online profiles says he is single instead of admitting he's in a relationship. Why is that?
If he's not trying to meet with outher females shouldn't he change that? I am not comfortable with a lot of things he does. I am to the
point where I am ready to leave him alone and let him roam. He has this I don't care attitude. I mean i love him, but not enough to
deal with his nonsense. I need some type of advice or guidance what should I do? What do you think?
Miss Ready to Go.
I am a female living in the Albany area, and I am writing about a so called relationship that I am in. I met a guy online and we have
been together for about 8 months now. I have a lot of Pro-Her females and want to know from you guys do you think I'm crazy? Am I
over-reacting with this situation I am about to describe?
He says he cares for me and loves me but I don't feel it. This is why; he leaves sexual comments on other females profile pages
online. He tells them he misses them and stuff like that. Once in a while he stays out late and I can't reach him. When he's around me
his phone rings a lot and he always ignores it, but then he will start to text. To me that seems kind of suspect. He still keep in touch
with ex-girlfriends and all his online profiles says he is single instead of admitting he's in a relationship. Why is that?
If he's not trying to meet with outher females shouldn't he change that? I am not comfortable with a lot of things he does. I am to the
point where I am ready to leave him alone and let him roam. He has this I don't care attitude. I mean i love him, but not enough to
deal with his nonsense. I need some type of advice or guidance what should I do? What do you think?
Miss Ready to Go.
Well Miss Ready to Go, i think you already know what to do. You've put together a list of red flags and not one
good thing about him in your letter. So you are leaning in the right direction. But I will say this, no matter what he
says or does, he is only going to do what you allow him to do. If you have not had the conversation about what you
expect from him and what he expects from you, then you can't really be mad at him.
People assume that the person they are with is going to know what to do that is right or wrong, but how can
you truly know without having that communication between the two involved. I say have the talk if you haven't already.
If things don't change then bounce, and he can't be mad because you told him.
The Gentleman.
good thing about him in your letter. So you are leaning in the right direction. But I will say this, no matter what he
says or does, he is only going to do what you allow him to do. If you have not had the conversation about what you
expect from him and what he expects from you, then you can't really be mad at him.
People assume that the person they are with is going to know what to do that is right or wrong, but how can
you truly know without having that communication between the two involved. I say have the talk if you haven't already.
If things don't change then bounce, and he can't be mad because you told him.
The Gentleman.
Now Miss Ready to Go, you know I have a low tolerance for B.S. and I see a lot of B.S. going on in this situation. I
would suggest you make a fake profile or collaborate with a close friend and set him up to prove himself to be loyal
or disloyal like the stray dog he really is. Actually judging from this letter I don't even think he's worth the time and
effort.
Come on Son?!? Putting messages on another chic's facebook wall is asking to be caught. Lil Wayne & Young
Money got all these dudes brainwashed with this I want every girl in the world attitude. Oh well you can have every
girl but me. Don't waste your time or emotions on someone who ain't doing the same for you. We Off that, now On to
the next one!!
Tanya.
would suggest you make a fake profile or collaborate with a close friend and set him up to prove himself to be loyal
or disloyal like the stray dog he really is. Actually judging from this letter I don't even think he's worth the time and
effort.
Come on Son?!? Putting messages on another chic's facebook wall is asking to be caught. Lil Wayne & Young
Money got all these dudes brainwashed with this I want every girl in the world attitude. Oh well you can have every
girl but me. Don't waste your time or emotions on someone who ain't doing the same for you. We Off that, now On to
the next one!!
Tanya.
Hey Miss Ready to Go, I want to know how do you know that he is doing all this stuff online, if you are not looking
for it. If you go looking for dirt chances are you are going to find dirt. Everybody flirts online and some people say a
lot of things they don't mean just to see what kind of response they get.
What are you doing to keep this guys attention? If you really want this guy you got to put in work, and with some guys
you got to put in overtime. Learn how to trust but with understanding. Love can be irrational and emotions can be
unstable and make a mountain out of an ant hill. You have to know who you are dealing with before you start giving
them your heart and soul. Although the whole staying in touch with the ex girlfriends may not seem so cool, if you are
willing to accept that then do it. If not then you should move on. Just remember you can't move forward if you are
going to keep looking back.
Meagan.
for it. If you go looking for dirt chances are you are going to find dirt. Everybody flirts online and some people say a
lot of things they don't mean just to see what kind of response they get.
What are you doing to keep this guys attention? If you really want this guy you got to put in work, and with some guys
you got to put in overtime. Learn how to trust but with understanding. Love can be irrational and emotions can be
unstable and make a mountain out of an ant hill. You have to know who you are dealing with before you start giving
them your heart and soul. Although the whole staying in touch with the ex girlfriends may not seem so cool, if you are
willing to accept that then do it. If not then you should move on. Just remember you can't move forward if you are
going to keep looking back.
Meagan.
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